On the way back from getting some groceries after the haircut, she started in again! And I recall now the massive fracas that occured in the wee hours of Sunday morning! I had gotten up and moved to the couch at some point, and apparently Grace had come in after a nightmare and gotten in my place.Lily tried to get in the bed, and Grace must have consciously or unconsciously pushed her out of the bed or whatever.This is not good and sends the wrong message to children.Time-outs require that children sit alone, sometimes facing the wall, quietly for the amount of minutes corresponding with their age.To feel intensely is not a symptom of weakness, it is the trademark of the truly alive and compassionate. It is not the empath who is broken, it is society that has become dysfunctional and emotionally disabled.
So if you’re living with a mate who fits any of those descriptors, accept that this skill may be one that you’ll have to “lead out on” and be the example for your spouse.But it’s absolutely crucial to effective communication and to the fulfillment of our craving for connection with our mates.You might want to record these questions and keep them in a place where you can retrieve them easily, like on a handy index card tucked in your wallet or on a note-keeping app on your smart phone, etc.There is no shame in expressing your authentic feelings. Those who are at times described as being a 'hot mess' or having 'too many issues' are the very fabric of what keeps the dream alive for a more caring, humane world.